Classroom Management Strategies and other Teacher Worthy Ideas
Now, this could be a troubling topic, especially if you’re in the life stage of understanding your toddler or early elementary age child. I once heard a Pastor say that it was his opinion that children are all born with high self esteem (aka a 2 year old), but that it gets trodden down by surrounding adults and their peers. Anyone who has seen a 2 year old, knows exactly what I mean!
So, where did all this “building self-esteem” psychology come from? I just read a book review of the book, NUTURE SHOCK, by PO Bronson and Ashley Merryman. Even our teacher preparation courses promoted this self-esteem development as a necessary part of our objectives as a teacher!
Why should you read this book? For one reason, because the writers observe that “often the most brutal person in a child’s life is often a sibling.” That basic concept can be seen in way too many families as I walk through Walmart! I saw that behavior again and again during my years as Director of a Pre-School. No one taught these little ones how to grab a toy they wanted or throw a fit whenever they weren’t first in line!
The Wall Street Journal book review says, “That high self-esteem doesn’t improve grades, reduce anti-social behavior, deter alcohol drinking or do much of anything good for kids. In fact, telling kids how smart they are can be counterproductive. Many children who are convinced that they are little geniuses tend not to put much effort into their work. Others are troubled by the latent anxiety of adults who feel it necessary to praise them constantly.”
The authors also observe that programs like D.A.R.E. and drop out prevention programs, have a long term “foggy” positive result. That analysis shocked me.
One more thing, the authors observe that talking and responding to your child adds more words to their vocabulary than sitting them in front of a TV, listening to books on tape, or playing video games. Of course!
If you need some more analysis before you seek out this book, here’s a link to the Wall Street Journal Book Review: